Here are some ways to apply what you've learned ...

Professional Development
  • Boundaries

    If you find establishing boundaries a challenge it may be helpful to keep the following myths about boundaries (Cloud 1992) in mind:

    1. Myth:  If I set boundaries, I'm being selfish

    2. Myth:  Boundaries are a sign of disobedience

    3. Myth:  If I begin setting boundaries, I will be hurt by others

    4. Myth:  If I set boundaries, I will hurt others

    5. Myth:  Boundaries mean I am angry

    6. Myth:  When others set boundaries, it injures me

    7. Myth:  Boundaries cause feelings of guilt

    8. Myth:  Boundaries are permanent, and I'm afraid of burning my bridges

If you have major boundary issues (are a workaholic, unable to maintain romantic relationships or angry at inappropriate times) or have less serious boundary issues (allow students to take advantage of your kindness for example):

    1. Identify the symptoms

    2. Identify the root causes of the symptoms (what is the unmet need or fear?)

    3. Identify the boundary conflict

    4. Identify who is responsible (for example: someone else may be responsible for your past experience, you are responsible for your current reaction)

    5. Set limits with safe people and build a support structure

    6. Say no to bad habits and hurtful situations and people (address your real need)

    7. Forgive yourself for failures and learn from them

  • Rest and Renewal

    When you plan your syllabi for next semester, schedule time for at least two mini vacations.  Be sure not to assign papers due on Friday before your weekend.  Try to have as few items on your to do list as possible in the day or two before your mini vacation.  It seems that most people need three days to really wind down.  If you can't squeeze in a full three days, try for two light days followed by the weekend off.  If you will have a particularly full semester complete with committee assignments or clubs to sponsor, plan for no stress breaks.  Mark Miliron of the League for Innovation recommends "Amish Weekends".  An Amish weekend is one without computers, phones, or television.  He and his wife tell grandma and grandpa not to worry, that they'll be home, but not taking any callers or calls.  They play with their children and recuperate from full schedules.  If you enjoy packing and getting out of town, do that.  Control the desire to be on time or on task during the weekend; sleep and move as suits your body, not your head.  If you have a significant other or spouse, you may need to explain that you need time away from other people to reconnect with those most significant to you and with yourself.   

    "Having a good time is the most neglected aspect of good health" - Julia Child age 88

  •  Vision, Values, Goals and Objectives Planning

    If you were on your death bed what would you wish you had spent more time/energy doing?

Building Campus Community
  • Exercise

    It has been said (Mackoff 1992) that exercise:

    1. Dissolves tensions accumulated during the day
    2. Offers time to gain perspective about work
    3. Creates a diversion from thoughts about work
    4. Provides the opportunity for private time.

    Your work at a community college provides a wonderful opportunity to start that exercise program.  Most campuses have gyms, tracks and a wide range of classes.  Contact your physical education department and find out what is available on your campus.

  • Recent medical research suggests that 30 - 60 minutes of exercise is a better determinate of life expectancy than being the "right" weight.